Jill Boultinghouse, MFT Therapist and Counselor

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Everything You Need To Know About EMDR Therapy

Learning about therapy options can be confusing, but the good news is that there are many ways to help you feel better. It’s my job to choose the approach that I believe will be most effective, but it’s important to … Continue reading

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3 Myths About Bullying

3 Myths About Bullying After years of working in junior high and high schools as a school counselor, I learned a few things about bullies and their victims.  Bullying is a deliberate and repetitive act of aggression against someone of … Continue reading

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Expectations of Mind-Reading Will Doom You

Often we consciously or subconsciously expect our partners to know what we want or need.  Just this morning I spoke with a client who said “If my husband does not know that is what is expected then we have a … Continue reading

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Mother’s Day Blues

The Mother’s Day Sadness So many times we hear how December and “the holidays’ bring on depression, but I have noticed that Mother’s Day can bring sadness, despair and depression for many.  I primarily have noticed that woman who have … Continue reading

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Personal Intelligence

Using Personal Intelligence to Understand Personal intelligence differs from emotional intelligence.  Emotional intelligence leaves out people’s intentions, traits, motives and life stories.  Personality intelligence looks at the mental process of understanding others; therefore, being able to better interact with others. … Continue reading

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Holidays With the In-laws

Surviving Holidays with the In-laws and More I have already begun working with many of my clients on how to manage the holidays, which feels to most far from any sort of true relaxing holiday.  Besides the fact that time gets … Continue reading

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Sex and Love Addiction: In Women

Understand Sex and Love Addiction In Women Many times a week I am asked about my work with sex and love addicts.  Just as alcoholism was a dirty secret in the middle of last century, sex and love addiction is … Continue reading

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OC Register Article for Strength In Support

LAGUNA HILLS – Military veterans and their families have a new resource for mental health services in Laguna Hills with the launch of a local nonprofit organization.   Strength in Support is a nonprofit group that provides free or low-cost … Continue reading

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Communication

  Understanding Communication Is A Two-way Street The first rule of communication is there are a listener and a speaker.  Know which one you are.  Hint: one can not always be the speaker. Rules for the speaker:  Think about what … Continue reading

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Differentiation: A Lifetime Goal

Psychological Differentiation Process Psychological differentiation borrows its concepts from cellular differentiation thanks to Dr. Murray Bowen.  Remember high school biology?   A cell divides and goes through a process to separate itself into two different cells. The human differentiation is the … Continue reading

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